Thinking Barriers

Responsible Thinking

1. Closed Thinking
  • Lies by omission
  • Not self-critical
  • Unreceptive
  • Sees others’ views as worthless
1. Open Thinking
  • Truthful and open
  • Critical of own behavior
  • Receptive to positive change
  • Sees genuine value in others
2. Victim Role
  • Full of self-pity
  • Blames others, the past, family, genes, circumstances, society
  • Sees self as a victim
2. Personal Accountability
  • Reliable, prompt, prepared
  • Takes responsibility for actions
  • Admits victimizing others
3. "I'm Okay" Self-Image "I'm not a bad person"
  • Focuses on personal good deeds
  • Refuses to admit doing harm
  • Denies destructive actions
3. Self Respect
  • Earns respect, shows gratitude
  • Explores alternatives, works toward solutions
  • Controls feelings
4. Reckless Careless Attitude
  • “I can’t” means “I won’t”
  • No obligation to others
  • Refuses “disagreeable” tasks
  • Complies only for benefits
  • Sees responsibility as dull, irresponsibility as exciting
4. Daily Effort
  • Is considerate of others
  • Has healthy associations
  • Organizes to achieve tasks
  • Fulfills obligations
  • Sees responsibility as rewarding
5. Instant Gratification “I want it now”
  • Expects an instant response
  • Makes decisions on feelings
  • Does not learn from the past
5. Self Discipline
  • Plans and builds for the future
  • Decides on facts, not feelings
  • Learns from the past and guilt
6. Fear of “Losing Face”
  • Has profound fear of personal insults
  • Refuses to admit fears (over-confident), or
  • Feels insecure, put-down, worthless
6. Courage over Fear
  • Views criticism as input
  • Admits fears, trusts others to help
  • Meets challenges without dodging
7. Power Control
  • Desires to control every situation
  • Manipulates for power and control
  • Refuses to cooperate (unless taking advantage of others)
7. Healthy Relationships
  • Chooses to let go of control
  • Seeks to understand others
  • Cooperates even when at a disadvantage
8. Possessive Attitude “It’s mine”
  • No respect for the rights, property or privileges of others
  • Sees people, places, and things as possessions
  • Uses sex or sexual insults for power control
8. Respect for Others
  • Respects the rights, property and privileges of others
  • Works toward win-win cooperation
  • Reserves sex for close meaningful relationship
9. Superior Uniqueness
  • Demands more of others than self
  • Ignores “Higher Power”
  • Views self as unique and better than others
  • Quits at first sign of failure
9. True Humility
  • Demands more of self than others
  • Acknowledges “Higher Power”
  • Views self as no better or worse than others
  • Has realistic expectations

Tactics

Trust

Tactics – Shifts Blame or Focus
  • 1 . Attempts to confuse
  • 2 . Points out others’ faults
  • 3 . Builds self up by putting others down
  • 4 . Makes a big scene over minor issues
  • 5 . Accuses others of misunderstanding
  • 6 . Uses anger as a way to control others
  • 7 . Argues over “words” to avoid the real issue
  • 8 . Introduces irrelevant issues (race/ gender)
  • 9 . Puts others on defense by embarrassing
Trust – Earn Respect
  • 1 . Speak clearly and truthfully
  • 2 . Point out others’ qualities
  • 3 . Encourage and support others
  • 4 . Calmly endure and respond to minor issues
  • 5 . Seek to understand more than to be understood
  • 6 . Stay focused, calm and kind even in a crisis
  • 7 . Listen and talk respectfully, stay on topic
  • 8 . Point to the truth and stick to facts
  • 9 . Avoid hurting or embarrassing others
Tactics – Lies and Deceives
  • 10 . Deliberately vague
  • 11 . Avoids obligations (”I forgot” or “you didn‘t tell me”)
  • 12 . Tells what others want to hear, not the truth
  • 13 . Omits facts, exaggerates, tells what pleases self
  • 14 . Says “yes” or agrees without meaning it
Trust – Be Truthful and Honest
  • 10 . Be deliberately truthful, open and honest
  • 11 . Be considerate and reliable
  • 12 . Share your thoughts and beliefs with humility
  • 13 . Tell the truth wisely even if it is unfavorable to you
  • 14 . Say it and mean it, do not flip-flop
Tactics – Ignores Obligations
  • 15 . Does not pay attention
  • 16 . Chooses only what is self-gratifying
  • 17 . Refuses to communicate - silence
  • 18 . Minimizes behavior (”no big deal, everybody does it”)
  • 19 . Says “I’ve changed” after briefly doing one right thing
Trust – Build Trust
  • 15 . Stay alert, focused, and do not disappoint
  • 16 . Choose the best for everyone, not just yourself
  • 17 . Communicate with respect for others
  • 18 . Hold yourself to higher standards
  • 19 . Improve steadily with patience and hope
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Generally Responsible
1. Is responsible in daily routine at home, work and socially
2. Balances hard work, fulfillment of obligations, and recreation
3. Shows genuine consideration for others
4. Earns others' respect through achievement; respects others' rights and property
5. Urges to be slack or violate may arise, but disappear with little or no effort
6. Makes choices for the good of others and self; values opinions and judgments of others
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Generally Irresponsible
1. Acts semi-responsible giving many excuses
2. Unreliable, inconsiderate, late, careless
3. Routinely lies, manipulates, and intimidates to get by
4. Lazy, fails to fulfill obligations; has poor work or study habits; lacks goals or direction
5. Exhibits good behavior only when immediate benefits are at hand
6. Pits authorities against each other (parents, teachers, officers, etc.)
7. Expects to fail; is apathetic, makes incomplete attempts
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Generally Unlawful
1. May act responsible when there is no alternative, but resists all the way
2. Closed, unreceptive, does not pay attention, thoughtless
3. Deceptive, secretive; thinks of self as better than others
4. Feels successful because offenses or crimes have gone undetected
5. If consequences and restraints are removed, will commit offenses previously only imagined
6. Seems “nice,” surprises many when caught in a seriously wrong act
7. Moves away to gain more freedom and avoid detection
8. Uses others; sees kindness from others as a weakness
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Generally Extreme
1. Responsible only when it benefits self or takes advantage of others
2. Commits crime, uses drugs and alcohol to feel superior
3. Promotes self at others’ expense; reckless
4. Over confident, arrogant; tries to “beat the system” against all odds
5. Continually plots and focuses on selfish and criminal thoughts
6. Acts without regard for the consequences to others or self
7. Enjoys using anger to intimidate and get own way
8. Sees self as a “good” person; ignores harm done to others
9. Blames others, cries unfair, claims injustice
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